Apr
01
2011

How old should your kids be to play “Call of Duty”?

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I’ve got a parenting dilemma to share with you today….

A few weeks ago, my oldest son Kyle went over to a friend’s house to play with a 5th grade buddy.  While he was there, I took the rest of the kids to my daughters’ dance class, and then to pick up another son from chess, and I must not have paid any attention to my cell phone.  When I picked Kyle up from his buddy’s house, the Mom mentioned to me that she had tried to reach me on my cell phone, to ask if it would be okay for Kyle to play “COD” with her son on the XBox.

Realizing how not-with-it I am in the realm of tween boys…  I just looked at her blankly…  “Umm…  cod?  I’m not sure what that is…”  And the Mom proceeded to explain that it was a video game called “Call of Duty” which is a military war game kind of thing, and the goal is for your guy to take out the opposition.  And it’s really not “too graphic” or anything…. But since they were unable to reach me, Kyle and her son just played some other games on the XBox instead.

Hmm….  sounds like a little research is in order here.

So I first turned to another good friend of mine who has twin sons in the 5th grade to get her take on the matter.  I was surprised to learn that her hubby had purchased the “Call of Duty- Black Ops” game for her boys for Christmas.  The boys know they are not allowed to play it when their younger (3 year old) sister is in the room…  so they wait until she goes to bed.  She explained that the game comes with some sort of levels of control- where you can decide the level of explicit play (I suppose referring to language and graphic violence).  She said that she and her husband set it to the most explicit level to test it out when her boys weren’t around, so they could see how “bad” the game could get….  and she said while the language was indeed colorful- it wasn’t too over the top….  and the violence was video game violence- shooting but without blood and gore (I think).

She went on to talk about another feature of the XBox console (we are Wii people here at the Rowley house)… is that you connect online to other XBox players.  So her boys connect with their older cousin and can play the game against each other.  She mentioned that when you do this, you can hear the people you are connecting to speaking (you are not just hearing the game)….  so her nephew is cautious about playing the game with her sons if her nephew has his older friends visiting at the time (I guess to reign in their own colorful language!)

So I have to admit- at this point I am kind of thinking….  a violent video game that is about killing people, and a game console that allows my kids to connect to other people online and talk to them, while I am not necessarily in the room overseeing this….  so far, I’m not liking this.

Let’s dig a little further….

I go out to Amazon to look at the “Call of Duty-Black Ops” game, and I see that the rating on it is “Mature”.  What does that mean exactly?  Well according to the Entertainment Software Rating Board:

“MATURE
Titles rated M (Mature) have content that may be suitable for persons ages 17 and older. Titles in this category may contain intense violence, blood and gore, sexual content and/or strong language.”

So here is the debate I have going back and forth with myself:

How do I feel about the game- it’s rating and it’s content?  (What are my family values as it relates to this?)

Well, I don’t feel very good about “Call of Duty” to be honest.  I really don’t think my 10 year old should be playing video games where the sole purpose is to kill people- using tactical Cold-War era weaponry.  If this were a movie about war, I don’t think I would be showing it to him…  so why is a video game any different?

How do I feel about my son’s maturity level in this area? (Every kid is unique in what they can handle, right?)

Actually, I feel that my son is pretty mature, and he can see something like this, and play the game, and know that killing is wrong, etc.  I don’t see him taking what he sees here and play-acting it with his siblings.  I also don’t think he would play this game and end up with nightmares or new worries about real wars and conflicts.

And what about his social implications?

I know that I don’t want to be the restrictive Mom raising the sheltered kid here.  As much as this game does not align with my personal values, I don’t want to bar him from playing completely- because forbidden fruit is desired that much more.  And I certainly do not want to overlook “the cool factor”- I don’t want him to be the uncool kid in school because his Mom won’t let him see more mature movies, play mature video games, and so on.

What did I eventually decide to do?

Kyle and I (and Steve) sat down and discussed why we are not thrilled with the idea of this game…  that we think violence-based video games are not great fits for 10-year olds, and that violence in general is just wrong.  BUT……  we understand why he would want to play a game at his friend’s house, and find out for himself what “all of the other kids at school are talking about”…  and that he would and should be naturally curious as to what the big deal is all about.  So we will allow him to play it at his friend’s house if he chooses.  And Kyle knows that we will never (at least not for many years) own this type of a game at our home because he has so many younger siblings.

So please weigh in.  Do you think that I made the right decision?  What would you do…. stick to your guns (pun intended!) regarding your own family values, or give in to the social pressure to let him try out the game?

 

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1 Meredith April 1, 2011 at 6:58 am

I’m totally with you on this. We don’t allow those games in our house and have made it clear we don’t even want them played at their friends houses; although both of my oldest have played it at one time or another while at a friends house. Stick to your family values all the way!!!!!

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2 Tracey April 1, 2011 at 8:30 am

I would have done the same thing as you. I think having that conversation with your son was so smart. I agree not in my home but I also agree forbidden fruit makes things seem more desirable than they really are. Compromise is good when it is on the parents terms.

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3 Anonymous October 29, 2011 at 8:16 pm

I disagree completely I’m on Xbox live playing COD every day & I hear so many kids who are 10 (& even younger) playing & cussing so much over there headsets. I may be 18 now but when I was 10 I was playing much more violent games than COD. Just let him play it it’s not real it’s all fake.

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4 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
November 2, 2011 at 1:35 pm

I appreciate what you are saying that it is fake and not real… and it’s not that I fear that playing COD is going to turn my son or anyone else into real-life violent criminals. It’s just that I don’t think we need to “go there” yet…. he doesn’t need to be playing live with other kids “cussing” over the headsets. That day will come- it just doesn’t need to be today.

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5 Anonymous January 27, 2014 at 4:01 pm

U can mute others

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6 Anonymous October 30, 2014 at 3:18 pm

its really not very bad if you turn gore and blood and swearing and violence then its a T game.

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7 Erin
Twitter: Midnite592
April 1, 2011 at 4:41 pm

For most families, I think kids should reach at least 6th grade before being exposed to any movies or games of this nature.

However, there are instances where this is ok for younger kids, in my opinion. For example, my husband was program manager for several years on a project to develop game based training tools for the military. It was not uncommon for his employees to bring in their kids to play each level before it was modified for its specific training application and therefore marked as confidential. They were four boys and one girl ranging in age from 7-13. Scenes were often similar to COD, but these kids are also well versed in all things military.

Basically I’m saying it depends on what you want for your family. No one else can make the decision for you and your family.

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8 Forgetfulone April 3, 2011 at 2:51 pm

My son is in 9th grade now, but I believe I got him his first COD game in maybe the 7th grade? I watched for a while, I even played it, although I am terrible with the controller thing, and I have to say that it is not as bad as I thought it was going to be. There’s definitely violence. There’s some fake blood. There is no offensive language that I can remember unless they are on xBox live and hooked up to other people.

Let me also just say, as a teacher, the kids are hearing worse things at school – if they attend public school, maybe even private school – than they hear on xBox live. We can only keep them sheltered so long. They have to be exposed to the real world at some time so they don’t experience total culture shock later.

I didn’t let my son play M games when he was in fifth grade. My sister didn’t let my nephew play them (at least not at her house) until he was 17. I thought that was a bit drastic.

I think if you are an involved parent who talks to your child and stays involved in all aspects of his life, the video game rating should probably not be a big issue once they reach about age 12. It depends on the maturity level of your child, also. So, in 5th grade, I don’t think I would be comfortable with it, but as they get into middle school, a little freedom is okay. Just my opinion.

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9 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
April 3, 2011 at 3:43 pm

Thank you so much for your comments….. I agree with you, that the kids are probably hearing these things in school already.

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10 Anonymous May 26, 2013 at 8:49 am

I think kids cuss cause they’re parents cuss

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11 Cesar June 24, 2011 at 7:36 pm

In my personal opinion just let him play it. The language isn’t a problem, most 10 year olds here more cursing in school daily than the average rated R movie. Blood and gore can always be censored.

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12 BlackBeltMom September 9, 2011 at 5:01 pm

I teach my kids to seek out better choices where available but allow them to decide after knowing how I feel. I don’t like to foster violence in boys. It carries over to other areas of their lives. Killing is senseless even if it is simulated. Overexposure to it makes it seem less wrong. Who hasn’t left a violent movie and felt like its main character was justified even though a trail of bodies was left in his wake? The video game issue is an ongoing issue at our house too. :)

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13 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
September 10, 2011 at 2:27 pm

I completely agree with you! Overexposure just numbs you to what is really happening in these games.

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14 Anonymous October 26, 2011 at 6:26 am

Your an idiot let kids be kids it’s not like he’s going to go on a rampage killing spree it’s a video game so I think you should let him play it

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15 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
October 26, 2011 at 9:28 am

Thank you for that highly crafted and well thought out response.

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16 Anonymous April 1, 2013 at 3:34 pm

Sharon way to respond to that ignorant comment. I was reading through and laughed when he called you an idiot and you responded carefully and sarcastically(?). Rock ON!

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17 Anonymous August 11, 2014 at 8:09 pm

I agree wit you 100%! People over exaggerate now and days. I played violent games as a very young child and as of today I can’t even hurt a fly.

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18 anonymous November 5, 2011 at 3:07 am

If you’re really worried about your kids talking to other people who are swearing or yelling other profanities, you can turn communication off with everyone except the people they’re friends with on Xbox.

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19 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
November 5, 2011 at 9:06 am

Thanks for the tip. But it is more than just the communication with others while playing… it is the entire game that is about violence that is my main objection. (But I love all of the discussion that this post is getting- I like hearing other people’s opinions).

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20 Sarah November 13, 2011 at 11:42 am

I loved this…and was shocked at how many people said “oh just let him play, he hears it at school anyways.” Kids are going to see and hear all kinds of things at school and out in the world. Does that mean that we are free to act however we choose at home just because they’ll eventually see it anyways? Kids will see lying, cheating stealing…kids will hear swearing. Does this mean you swear at your kids. I would say, without a second thought, that the 5th grade is too young for a game that is not sold to someone under 17. You probably wouldn’t take him to an r-rated movie. Is it going to make him violent…probably not. But agree with you 100%, why even go there yet?

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21 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
November 13, 2011 at 8:12 pm

Sarah-
I agree with your point of view completely! Just because inappropriate language is “out there” and violence is “out there” doesn’t mean that I should welcome it into my home with open arms! I am not saying “No- not ever!”… I am saying “No- not now.” I know that my children will grow up and over time these choices will become theirs to make. But for right now, I am the parent and I get to set the rules that work for my family…. and other families have the right to do as they see fit too!

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22 Jack February 16, 2013 at 10:14 pm

I am 11 and i do not play any violent video games! Even if you turn gore and blood off its still there just less. My mom says its inapropriate. I agree! The game is +17 for a reason!

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23 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
February 19, 2013 at 5:45 am

Thanks Jack!

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24 Anonymous May 13, 2013 at 3:15 pm

im 11 and i play everywhere its fun and helps reflects and if your would ever go to the army he would already know about guns

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25 vincent June 28, 2013 at 2:32 am

comparing call of duty to being in the army is so incredibly dumb. remember kids there are no respawns in the army, navy, USMC, air force

26 Anonymous November 14, 2011 at 4:33 pm

I think u dumb

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27 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
November 14, 2011 at 8:19 pm

why thank u

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28 Anonymous April 1, 2013 at 3:36 pm

hahahahahah

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29 Anonymous May 14, 2013 at 4:05 pm

i love cod and im 8

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30 Anonymous December 18, 2011 at 11:59 am

I feel the Same way as you
do. You should probably atleast be a teenger

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31 Susan March 17, 2012 at 9:33 am

I am so over COD, my 10 year old son has been begging me for a year to buy him a game. I do normally give in and buy them things (because I can’t stand the persistent nagging), but I will not give in to COD. I have never played the game, nor do I want to, but I do believe their is a reason it is rated M. I am well aware my son plays it at his friends houses (all of whom have older brothers), but I don’t want it in my house because I also have a 9 year old daughter and an 8 year old son. I think its probably more appropriate for a 13-14 year old

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32 A Gamer Girl March 28, 2012 at 4:31 pm

I DISAGREE

I know a 5 yr old boy who has Call of Duty MW3 and is prestiged on it, it is NOT inapropriate, kids have got to learn about life, and if you don’t let them have 18+ games, well, that make them the un-coolest kid in the class.

I DO go against GTA though, you can see girls’/boys’ middles, I think thats a bit too realistic, if kids want a game like GTA i would advise getting Saints Row The Third

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33 anonymous February 17, 2013 at 8:18 pm

saints row is even worse than GTA

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34 Anonymous April 9, 2012 at 11:53 am

does it actuly make them violent or is it just a lie

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35 Goarge June 18, 2014 at 2:38 pm

No Of course Not! Kids just act violent because there parents never taught them whats right and whats wrong

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36 Melinda April 27, 2012 at 3:50 pm

My 6 yr. old son has, without my knowing it, been introduced to this game by his 5 yr. old friends 13 yr old brother. He loves it and I’m not thrilled about the idea of him loving a game that involves killing in any manner. He has asked me repeatedly to buy him this game. He’s 6. Surely this cannot be appropriate no matter what controls you put on the game, i.e., turning off blood graphics and language. I’m not sure how to get him to stop liking a game like this especially when he is at an age where he looks up to young adults like this 13 yr. old boy. He watches i carly and jessie all the time. So anyone else care to comment about this issue? How young is too young to be introduced to real life issues?

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37 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
April 28, 2012 at 1:41 pm

Melinda- I agree… putting limits on age=appropriate things is easier to do with your oldest, or with a child who does not have friends with older siblings. But once the influence of older kids comes into play…. all of your best intentions get rocked by the realization that everything is not in your control! I think (as in all parenting dilemmas) that you have to do what you think is best. And if you think that this is the wrong game for your 6 year old son, then you tell him he can’t play it- and your house or at his friend’s house.

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38 anonymous4545 February 5, 2013 at 9:21 pm

why let your child play video games anyway they are a waste of time it distracts them in school and get you nothing in life. who cares if your not allowed to play videos games just focus on education and it will pay off later in life unlike video games. so why let him play anyway and call of duty is not the best game anyway. educational games are fun too.

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39 Ethan July 12, 2013 at 8:27 am

Are you kidding me? Video games get you know where in life? There are millionaires off of playing video games. There is a call of duty tournament every year for 400 thousand dollars. Go on YouTube and look. There are sponsorships and tournaments and YouTube plays a role in it too. You can make tons of money off of cod.

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40 HELLO April 28, 2012 at 3:30 pm

Call of Duty is actually a way for children to relive stress, without any physical or verbal violence. Now the worst it can get is Modern Warfare 2. When you have to go into an airport and gun down innocent people. In Black Ops you go through a jungle village in Vietnam and kill people while they sleep, by slitting their throats. I believe that these should not be viewed by children. But if your child is around 13 or 14 while every other one of their friends has it… it’s probably okay.

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41 Kristy May 21, 2012 at 2:52 pm

I came across this post while looking for some rating and feed back about Black Ops. My nephew who just turned 5 brought COD Black Ops with his DS today and has it on his PS3 at home. He wants to play it with my son who is 6, so my son is begging me to let him play it. To find that this game is rated M (17+) I am slightly appalled that they are allowed to play it. I am a gamer myself and I like Shooters a lot… but graphically intense violence and gore added with intense language is NOT what I would permit a pre-schooler and Kindergartener to play!

My son just had a run in with a child across the street whispering cuss words to him and flipping him off and telling him what it all means to which my son whispered back “stupid” and “oh my God”, because in our house THOSE are bad words! This other kid who is doing this to my child is 7 years old. This child who is 7 yeas old also plays Grand Theft Auto and has requested I let my kids come over and play with him.. UH NO! Where is your filter parents?! How do you allow your child to play games like this that are rated for adults basically? Saying that children should be allowed to play these games or be exposed to it because they will one day get exposed to it anyway, is like sitting down with your young child and watching a porno with them for the sake of saying one day they will see it anyhow. It is totally wrong and they are NOT ready for it and there is a reason they have ratings!

My little 5 year old nephew walks around pretending to shoot people all the time and throwing grenades at them and makes slit his throat motions all the time. Yeah… Not my kids, not my house, and they will NOT go into anyone elses house either. They will invite their friends to THEIR house, where they are SUPERVISED and have VALUES.

Why not toss them the keys to the car and tell them to buckle up and drive safe while you’re at it for the sake of being uncool… everyone else does it why shouldn’t they?

Because you LOVE your kids and you want more for them than just a vocabulary made up of 4 letter words. My 13 year old son does not play this game or use the internet or play multiplayer ANYTHING that will expose him to foul language, pornography, disrespect and disobedience. No thank you. (on a side note my 13 year old is also developmentally delayed and is not your average 13 year old either, so it’s like feeding him to the wolves because he is 13 and of an age that he should be able to handle it when really he is more like 7 years old.)

I will protect my kids, not shelter them, and teach them right from wrong. The more talks you have with your kids, the better prepared and able they will be when handling this stuff when they have to.

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42 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
May 21, 2012 at 9:10 pm

Well said Kristy! And you are right… I could never go along with allowing my kids to view this stuff simply because someday they will see it anyway! That is just non-parenting if you ask me. I am glad to hear that you are sticking with your own values and working hard to raise your children by them.

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43 Anonymous June 6, 2012 at 8:35 pm

I find it amazing the number of children that found it acceptable to hurl abuse at a mother looking for advice. Interestingly under the cloak of anonymity. I’m with you on this, children should be protected, but not mollycoddled.

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44 Anonymous June 6, 2012 at 8:37 pm

Oh yes… And the fact I posted that previous comment as anonymous, and this one too should not be lost (although I doubt they appreciate the irony) on the abusive trolls!

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45 yola vadim June 24, 2012 at 4:11 am

This is non-sense. Americans are very restrictive. I allow my child to play call of duty and other rated M games and it doesn’t and never did it affect his behavior at all. stop blaming games, social this or that on your child being violent or not. it’s either in him or it’s not. games has nothing to do with it.

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46 Agree October 13, 2012 at 3:38 pm

I agree with how you handled it- I do the same thing. I say you can play it at a friends house for the same reasons you talk about but it is not allowed in our home.

I bought one game once that was rated M and now that is what I hear every time he asks for another M rated game- BUT YOU LET ME GET XYZ.

I did and I regret it and I won’t do it again.
Even at the workers at the video game store have spoken to him and said those games are not for you you are to young and here are some other games you would like. I appreciated them so much!

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47 SomeKid November 17, 2012 at 5:54 pm

EVERY1SHOULDBEABLETOPLAYCOD! But you are a smart person.

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48 hi December 28, 2012 at 1:23 am

HELLO, you can skip the modern warfare 2 level and you have the option of not killing the sleeping veit cong in black ops

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49 Anyonymous January 9, 2013 at 11:07 pm

Ok. First off. I am going to start by saying that I am 14. I know people are just going to skip this, but I would just like to say this. The game is a war game about killing others, but it isn’t very violent. Yes you are killing, but there isn’t that much blood, you basically shoot someone, and they fall down. You can’t blow off body parts or anything. You can turn of all the blood and swearing. I know how your son feels because when I was 10 my parents didn’t let me play the game. I agree when you said “forbidden fruit is desired that much more”. That is true. And the mature rating doesn’t always mean that it is bad. It really should be rated T for Teen. But then there would be too many people complaining.
However, if your son has many siblings, you should have him play in his bedroom or somewhere in which they cannot see him play. If he doesn’t have his own bedroom, maybe have him play somewhere were the other kids won’t see. 10 years old is way younger than 17 obviously, but that doesn’t mean he can’t play it. I knew some kids who started playing violent games rated M when they were only 6. I personally think that is too young, but I didn’t see any violent behavior from him.
Also, when I wasn’t allowed to play it, I felt left out because I had no idea what the other kids were talking about. Sometimes other kids made fun of me because I wasn’t allowed to play M games.
I have a suggestion for you. Search this question on google and see the results. No offense to parents, but normally parents will answer these questions and only say the bad things about the game. Most of them haven’t actually played the game.
Then, search “how to get your parents to let you play call of duty” that way, it is mostly kids who only look at the positives in the game.
That way, you can get the 2 point of views, the good and the bad.
Also, maybe watch some videos on youtube, it shows you the actual gameplay so you can make the decision. The game is probably not as bad as you thought.
Thanks for posting this question. I think it is smart to get other people’s opinions on parenting.
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50 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
January 11, 2013 at 10:59 am

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave your well-written and thought-out comment! I appreciate hearing what you think… and now that my oldest son is 12 years old, I think he and I both can relate to what you had to say. He has played COD at friend’s houses, and has enjoyed learning what it is all about. But he really doesn’t mind that we don’t own a copy here at our own home. I think for him it was more important to be “in on it” than it really was to continue to play it.

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51 Elizabeth January 21, 2013 at 12:28 pm

I will not let my 5th grader play COD, not even at a friends house. He plays video games on the wii, but mostly sports games. I too, did research on COD and it was not positive. There are many risks to playing the bad guy in this violent video game in the first person. When you watch a scary or more violent movie, most people route for the victim or the good guy. In COD, you experience what it feels like as the bad guy. Some (not all) children like this feeling of being able to KILL someone. This type of game decreases empathy in children. So many kids get obsessed and end up not being able to decipher the difference between reality and fantasy. Also, it’s always the bad kids at school that are allowed first to play this type of game. I’m not saying he will never, but not at 10. I would rather have him playing sports or reading! Think about this, the parents who don’t pay attention to the content and allow the kids too young to play these types of games are the one’s with the real problem down the road.

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52 Definatelly not a 11 year old kid(wink)(wink) January 29, 2013 at 1:26 am

I think It should be ok. Yes, I do agree with all these terms and I agree that he should not play it in the house.Wait until his siblings are mature enough, then grant him access to anything.You made a wise choice though and you should stick to it, but it is also a real bummer on the “cool” kid popularity at school since most parents allow their children to play these games at early ages. But I can suggest that he would be allowed to play in a few more years and turn off the cussing settings.I don’t really think there is really any blood or gore in it though. But one thing to keep in mind…DO NOT LET HIM PLAY BLACK OPS(next series of shooting game made by same company who made cod) or BLACK OPS 2 IN ZOMBIESMODE.Sorry, I had to emphasize it because it was important. I’m a little of a gamer and this is one of the games I play. I don’t suggest zombies mode because it contains zombies(obviously) and could give some younger kids nightmares because of all the craziness and creepiness in it.

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53 Jack February 16, 2013 at 10:18 pm

Who wants to see people making love ! Well its in cod! Scary zombies with blood everywhere! It would give kids nightmares!

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54 Ben February 20, 2013 at 11:49 am

I’m a 13 year old boy and I would just like to give some insight on the learning factor of these games. I believe that 10 years old is too young but by the time you are a teen it can really give you an understanding of the world and make you a more mature person. I love video games and I don’t think they induce violence in children but I do see your reasoning and respect your opinion. I have a friend who is sheltered by his mother and he is truely miserable and is just learning about the world, I feel very bad for him. Thank you for reading my opinion and I hope you are not sheltering your child too much because that can really hurt a person developmentally.

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55 Anonymous March 21, 2013 at 1:45 pm

well im 11 and my brother is 12 do u think my parents are over protective because we cant play the game until we are 15 im just wondering if its better to play it whilhanks!e your 12 or like 17 im just wondering t

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56 anonymous April 10, 2013 at 8:02 am

if your son is mature enough just let him get the game and play it at night when the little kidz our in bed jeez this is what my mom always worries about.also like i play with kids that our 5.you heard me.they have it cuss free.

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57 Peter Bosco April 12, 2013 at 10:57 am

I can understand both sides of this as i have been playing games all my life. What i can tell you is that the violence in Call of Duty will not turn your son into a cold blooded killer. What i believe Call of Duty does though is makes the kids under the age limit more susceptible to becoming rebellious. Not in a bad way though, they can find out who they are when they play and come up with their own opinions on what their views. I meet many people online and many are great friends while others aren’t so fantastic. Violence is never a good thing, but it does help mold them and while the choice is rightfully up to the parent who has the power to buy the games, having him make his own decisions with things can definitely help mold him into being more able on the internet. The internet can be a very terrifying place, worse than what you may find on xbox live, but he will find his way eventually to it, so may as well help him understand what he can find on it, especially when it comes to being social whether it is games or social media.

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58 Andrew Stincic May 8, 2013 at 7:45 am

Hello, I am 15 years old and I hope to buy Call of Duty: Black Ops on my Xbox 360. Even though I own numerous other first person shooters, my parents (mostly my mom) wont let me get this game due to the stupid M rating on the cover. I tried using every excuse including:

I can turn off the blood/gore

I can turn off the language

I am allowed to watch certain R rated movies

I intend on using my own funds

Had there not been the turn off blood/language filter, this request would never exist. This could be my final shot. This is my most desperate hour. Help me mom of six, you are my only hope.

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59 Anonymous May 30, 2013 at 11:26 am

I think you should DEFINETLY be able to play! you are only 2 years under age. I think when your 13 you should have it.

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60 Andrew Stincic June 1, 2013 at 3:09 pm

Thanks for the support.

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61 Anonymous May 30, 2013 at 11:29 am

wow my friend is 10 and he plays does any of your friends own the game? if they do that is a good excuse!

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62 Andrew Stincic June 1, 2013 at 3:11 pm

Again, thanks. I know several people who play this particular game.

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63 Anonymous June 6, 2013 at 5:18 pm

I played cull of duty when I wuz ate and I turned out to be real smart. just lets the kid play, he will get smart from the game. video games make kidz smarter cuz they learn about stuff.

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64 Andrew Stincic June 11, 2013 at 10:59 am
65 Anonymous June 6, 2013 at 5:21 pm

I am sixteen, and my mom doesn’t let me play anything above E. I am a nerd and study all of the time and read books every night. My mother says I can play Call of Duty when I am over twenty one.

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66 Andrew Stincic June 11, 2013 at 10:55 am

Wow. I thought my parents were strict…

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67 Anonymous June 6, 2013 at 5:23 pm

I LIKE POTATOES with my CHiCKEN NUGGETs. but be careful call of duty could kill your brain.

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68 Andrew Stincic June 11, 2013 at 11:08 am

I Actually do own an older Call of Duty game. I have logged a total of 100 combined hours playing multiplayer alone. So far, I have not seen my grades drop. I do know people who have become jerks thanks to Call of Duty.

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69 Idiot Man June 11, 2013 at 5:30 pm

Sharon, you are the STUPIDEST purson in the world. You are just another overprotective parent. All the parents say is, ” Oh my gosh, we have siblings! ” Holy crap, seriously, who cares about siblings!

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70 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
June 11, 2013 at 6:53 pm

I sure seems like you are supporting my point….

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71 Andrew Stincic June 12, 2013 at 7:11 am

Some of us here don’t have siblings, and have arguably more restrictive parents (including yours truly). I think Sharon is quite generous with her children. Sharon is willing to let her children play such games at a friend’s house. I am not allowed to do that.

To all of those who are allowed to play M-rated games at a friends house but are not allowed to own them: You have NOTHING to complain about. Sharon has common sense and is willing to let her children have fun. Now, all I have to do is show mom all the previous stuff i have written.

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72 ChiKen Nuggutt June 11, 2013 at 7:44 pm

Its the chiken nugget guy again. seriously call of duty is bad for your brain, don’t let anyone play it I have heard it make your brain blow up.

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74 Boring June 11, 2013 at 7:54 pm

This story sucks. Get a life.

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75 Andrew Stincic June 12, 2013 at 7:16 am

Find something else to read.

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76 Oh Snap! June 11, 2013 at 7:58 pm

Guys, don’t go on this website. Don’t be an unfortunate victim like me. Sharon’s website is designed to infect your computer with malware, including Trojan Horse virus. This website recently infected my computer and stole the ten dollars I had in my bank account.

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77 Ben Zeffer June 11, 2013 at 7:59 pm

Wow, I am never going on this website again, thanks for warning me.

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78 Josiah Bobaob June 13, 2013 at 3:01 pm

Call of Duty is the most scary game I have ever played. There are scary dragons and monsters that run around and shoot fire at you. It is so scary I had nightmares for a month.

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79 Andrew Stincic July 2, 2013 at 8:34 am

Oh, No. I am so scared [snicker].

Please note that this is sarcasm.

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80 Anonymous July 1, 2013 at 1:53 pm

You are weird

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81 Anonymous July 1, 2013 at 3:35 pm

this game COD has no dragons or monsters. but don’t buy him MW3 it has TONS of blood and gore

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82 Mehaha August 4, 2013 at 1:58 am

If you want me to be perfectly honest, i’m 13 and play this game on a weekly basis. My mom agrees with you to an extent, but won’t let me play it yet. ( i can play it at my aunts!) I recieved the Playstation 3 for christmas 2 years ago from my aunt and the first game i got was Call of Duty black ops. Knowing my mom didn’t like me playing war games I reluctantly brought it home. I turned it on and immediatley got fussed at. So i took it back to my aunts. If you ask me, call of duty is a way to relieve stress and have fun! I mean, I can distinguish the difference between “real life” and “fake” and was taught not to do or say these things. Ive played this game and have learned that it’s not “really” violent. To be honest I dont even think im killing people. Like many have said, whether you want your child do be “away” from all the evil in this world, or not, (well lets just put it like this) there is no possible way you can send your kid to a pub or priv school without them being showered with “evil”. I did some research myself and came across an “fbi” report, and it stated that ” video games dont cause violence, it fuels whats already there.” Like many have said there is an option to where you can reduce the profane language and gore. Also if he doesn’t have a mic it would be better so he doesnt speak to these 16+ year olds as they would speak to them. People are mean in this game.BUT! There is an option mute all of them. If you ask me if I had a child i would say wait until you are 12-13. But it depends on the maturity of your child! I really hope you read this and I didn’t mean to say i’m right and your wrong but we are all entitled to our own opinion. Thanks

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83 Jakob G August 17, 2013 at 6:16 am

Wow I don’t think he should be able to play period. To many 10 year Olds as it is

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84 Andrew Stincic September 18, 2013 at 3:47 pm

Instead of playing CoD, How about we just play a superior game, such as Battlefield?

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85 KobTor September 19, 2013 at 7:26 am

When ur 12 yrs old it should be fine to play these games but the 12 yr old has to be responsible and knows it’s not real, not the real world. So yeh as long as they understand and they’re sensible ok? :)

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86 KobTor September 19, 2013 at 7:28 am

Plus I’m 11, I play these type of games and I’m sensible so my parents trust me and my b days soon so it should be fine

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87 ANONYMOUS September 24, 2013 at 12:24 am

I am 14 years old and while I do not currently own a copy of Call Of Duty, i have played it numerous times at various friends’ houses. I don’t think Call of Duty or ‘COD’ is very bad for children aged 10+. I do however think that the concept of the game is not suitable for children below the age of 10. COD isn’t at all very realistic and really the only thing i can find that people may be offended by is the language which is present in single-player and online play. This however, can be easily stopped by either; only playing with friends online (which most people do anyway), turning down the volume or i think, you can switch off the bad language.

I think parents shouldn’t be so harsh as to ban thee games ESPECIALLY if the child is in their teens. Knowing someone is not allowed to play these games even at a a friends house makes them look REALLY ‘uncool’ (no one says that anymore).

If the child is under 10, it’s fine to not let them play it (unless you think they’re mature enough) but if they’re in their teens then i think any parent that doesn’t allow it is kidding themselves.

The truth is, kids do have a sudden urge to kill someone after playing these games and there is NO EVIDENCE to prove otherwise.

Hope this helps!

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88 ANONYMOUS September 24, 2013 at 12:26 am

I meant to say “don’t” in the last paragraph not “do”. Almost ruined my argument haha!

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89 Anonymous October 4, 2013 at 8:54 pm

I’m 14 years old and I own a copy of call of duty and I do agree with the fact kids as young as ten should be playing M rated games at that age obviously you are not going to be there all the time for your child and they probably will play the game at a friends house. Call of duty hasn’t got much close to real violence and there is no evidence to prove that, people turn into mindless killing machines after playing M rated games.

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90 Anonymous October 4, 2013 at 8:58 pm

Sorry when I was saying I do agree with the fact kids should be playing m rated games, u actually meant shouldn’t, lol I think I ruined my comment.

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91 Miriam October 30, 2013 at 4:03 pm

my son is 11 and in the 6th grade he has been asking for this game for quite a while as well. I am a 4th grade teacher and hear kids from 1st grade on talking about it!!! I am thinking of finally buying it for him this Christmas, but I dont agree with bad words we dont use them at home, he does know that people use them and they are not right. we have great communication and daddy’s a police officer who loves to watch action movies so I finally started letting him (when he wants ) to join us or my hubby watching a movie, but again we talk about it. I think at a certain age yes you cant shelter them and protect them from all that and it is important very important to talk about it. This is the first time I have considered and am considering buying it. My husband has wanted to buy it for him for the past 3 years!!! Im still not sure and am doing a little research on it….

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92 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
October 30, 2013 at 4:20 pm

You know your son… if you think he is ready to handle it appropriately- then he probably is. We still haven’t caved yet on this at our house…. but my son is asking again this Christmas. One of the issues is that COD doesn’t play on any device we already own- so it would be mean buying a new game system as well. And I don’t want him playing it in front of our younger kids…. so at the moment… we still don’t own it.

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93 Anonymous June 14, 2014 at 9:44 pm

You can play it on wii. It’s only 10 dollars for COD MW3 on amazon.

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94 Anonymous November 13, 2013 at 8:08 pm

i think a good thing to do would be to borrow it from your childs friend for a day, let him play the game under your supervision and if you think it’s not appropriate, just don’t get it

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95 Tyler November 17, 2013 at 8:22 pm

Don’t let him play ! Our neighbors kid is in prison right now and all he did was play Call of Duty . He killed a child.

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96 anonymous November 18, 2013 at 8:54 am

Im afraid it would take more than playing call of duty for a child to go kill someone!!:(

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97 Anonymous December 27, 2013 at 12:28 am

Make a compromise with your child, if its a language problem, play with the volume down for example

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98 Maxine December 30, 2013 at 1:13 am

Hey,
So, I was looking up this game because my dad just got it and offered for me to play, I’m 15 by the way, anyway, I played it with him for a while and it’s not actually that bad, the single player is a lot worse than multiplayer. I watched him play it and the language got quite “colourful” but multi player you’re just playing with those in the room, and you can change the settings to no gore, so it’s not quite as bad. I understand the desentualizing (sorry if that’s spelled wrong) But honestly there is much more violence in movies, and tv shows, with real people that one should be more concerned about seeing as it’s just a click of a button away.

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99 brian January 6, 2014 at 6:00 pm

I’m eight. And I heard that my cousin was playing COD when he was seven!!!!!!! And my friend is eight and plays COD. I think that he or she should play COD when they’re nine.

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100 Donna Smith January 11, 2014 at 10:48 pm

I am an adult and play the COD games. It is NOT in any way appropriate for kids under 15!! The online banter between players is extremely MATURE and unfiltered. Even the screen names of some of the players are graphic. Anyone who lets their young kids play this game have NO IDEA what their kid is playing or they don’t pay enough attention to their kid to care!! They just want to be the “cool” mom or dad that got their kid WHATEVER they asked for without researching it first.

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101 Anon February 15, 2014 at 6:08 pm

I’m going to have to disagree with you there Donna. A lot of the following reasons why you believe kids under 15 shouldn’t play COD are completely false. You can make it so you’re unable to communicate with other players, thus no banter. Also screen names can not have foul language otherwise the player will be banned or there name will have to be changed, and for a parent wanting to be the “cool” mom or dad that is just bad parenting.

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102 Donna Smith February 17, 2014 at 4:43 pm

Do you play the game Anon? Wish I could screen shot a couple of the player cards from Call of Duty Black ops II and post them on here. Unless you are a parent who actually plays the game you wouldn’t know what to look for to “parentally control” the game for your child……..screen names can be like this Herpesnstuff, Stinkypinky69r, sploogemonkey, jackoff69, I could go on and on. Also Clan tags are (Ass), (FuQ) etc. Don’t have to be a genius to figure out how to be vulgar in your screen name…..I stick by my opinion.

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103 Greg March 7, 2014 at 9:21 am

Hello – just chiming in, I am a single dad of a 5 yro son. I play one game COD that’s it – I am 40 and ex military so for me it’s simply to keep my skills up and mind focused…plus it’s fun. Though when I hear 5,6,7 even 10 year olds in these rooms saying some wild language I ask them “do your parents know your playing this game?” They say yes or no – then I say well put them on the mic I want to ask them if they allowed it, they quickly back pedal – “mom’s asleep” or “dad’s in the garage” or just leave the game. So I blame this on the parents who need to step up and ensure they manage the content their children are exposed to.

COD is more of a grown up game – I would say anyone ages 16 and up would be able to play.

I went out and bought Skylanders, Lego, and Disney Infinity for my son to play…age appropriate games.

But I simply report everyone online that is underage playing COD – this is simply not acceptable…

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104 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 7, 2014 at 10:19 am

Thanks so much for offering your insight Greg- and you make another point as well…. when kids are playing COD and interacting with others online- they have no idea who they are chatting with. It could be other kids, it could be adults without the best intentions. You simply don’t know.

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105 Emily May 24, 2014 at 7:16 am

I am 14 years old. I do not have a son. My brother on the other hand is 10, and some how he got into my fathers video games and discovered Call Of Duty. Everyday my brother wakes up at 6:30 to play C.O.D.. I think that is unreasonable. He too have a device that allows him to talk with some of his more violent friends. As his older sister, I am not trying to get him busted, but simply reinforce the rules at which my parents made at the begging of his life. I don’t think waking up at 6:30 to play a video game about killing everyone, along with waking up my sister of 9 and I is fitting. the other day I heard my brother curse for the first time, AT A VIDEO GAME!!! I let my parents know and they let him know, but didn’t strongly inforce that cursing and swearing are not okay. Later today I plan to solve this problem with a organized debat. I hope my parents and my brother will maturely both agree that this is not a appropriate game to play. My goal is to limit his time, settings on the game, and what time he can start playing. My 9 year old sister, craving a future as a lawyer, will help me along the way. I want to thank the author of this websites for informing me on the details I could not find without your help. I will let everyone know later what has become of the debate. Wish me luck!

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106 Isaac June 16, 2014 at 10:11 pm

Jesus Christ, look at all this anecdotal evidence! In all honesty, your child (unless they have a preexisting condition, or something) will most likely not turn into a violent killer by playing COD (which is a crappy series, btw). It should be at the discretion of the parent, but I personally think at 13 they could play if they want, but you also have to factor in the child’s maturity.

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107 Al August 12, 2014 at 7:59 am

Hi Sharon I just would like to say that your idea that kids hear worse profanities in school is frankly wrong. As an adolescent I used to “dabble” in these types of games and what. I have heard over the Xbox live VoIP makes me very very sad and infact disgusted. The comments range from “I X your mom last night” to “X you X”. Maybe some cuss words are used in schools but never these phrases.

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108 Anonymous September 18, 2014 at 1:06 pm

at least wait till hes in puberty, or at least 14-15 years old

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