Happiness Is…. Gratitude for Your “Outer Circle”


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There’s a Korean word (I believe) used to describe that outer circle of people in your life that are not quite family members or friends, but they are essential in providing the support system that helps your life to function. This outer circle includes the warm and friendly lady that rings you up every week at the dry cleaner and asks about how your kids are doing, the cashier that you see every single Monday morning at the grocery store who patiently accepts all of your coupons (and asks about your kids), and the exterminator who has been coming to your house for the last 10 years who nods understandingly (and then heads down to slay the beast) when you tell him about the trauma you endured because you saw one of those big hairy ginormous spiders in your basement last week. Oh yes, and he asks about your kids too….

Thee people aren’t family… and you probably wouldn’t invite them over to your backyard BBQ because they aren’t exactly friends either… but you can’t imagine your life without them.

This outer circle extends to the teachers, learning specialists, speech therapists, soccer coaches, and other instructors that your kids learn from each and every day. And it certainly expands to include every doctor, nurse, and physical therapist that touches your life.

My son Spencer has had a bit of a difficult recovery from a knee injury that he picked up during the fall football / soccer sports season. He’s been diagnosed with an osteochondral defect which basically is a lesion on his bone that won’t properly heal. He has been completely restricted from all activities and sports since November, which is a pretty frustrating situation for an 11-year-old to be in.

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Recently we are referred to a new doctor to help us figure out how to handle the situation. And Spencer was fitted with what we are now referring to as his “bionic brace”. We might still be looking at surgery- we’re not sure exactly where this is headed yet, but I feel really grateful that we have access to such great support and guidance from a team of doctors, nurses and therapists where we live. And that we have the benefit of pretty decent health insurance to help us pay for all of it. I know that we are indeed very fortunate.

So for this month’s happiness project, I am reflecting on the gratitude that I feel for all of those people that make up my “outer circle” of support. And I hope that I have given you some pause… to think about your own outer circle and do the same.

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1 Kimberly March 26, 2014 at 7:21 am

This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for reminding me that life doesn’t stop within our bloodlines and the relationships we have made…the “outsiders” are a part of our lives too and we should be thankful for that.
I had to share this.
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2 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 26, 2014 at 7:24 am

Thank Kimberly! Feeling gratitude always gives me a feeling of happiness, and right now I am so grateful for all of these people in my life.


3 Dude Mom March 26, 2014 at 7:35 am

I feel for your dude. My 12 year old has a friend who has had a similar experience (total restriction because of a knee issue) and it has been so hard. It’s awesome to have that type of support you’re talking about. And that he’s young and healthy and will be able to have an active life in the future. All things kids don’t care about But, can you imagine if this were you? Or, me?! I’d weigh 400lbs after wards and still wouldn’t be able to walk without a forklift. Sigh, old=lame.
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4 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 26, 2014 at 2:23 pm

See- I think it would be easier if it were me because I practically act as if I am on total exercise restriction right now! Seriously- I am doing NA-THING at the moment… and am so in need of a life re-vamp.


5 Robbie March 26, 2014 at 11:56 am

I love this! It is so true that we need a well-oiled outer circle to keep things moving along.
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6 Jennifer March 26, 2014 at 7:49 pm

Oh my gosh. I have no idea what I would do without that outer circle, my kids’ teachers, my boss. I’m so appreciative of those people.
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7 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 27, 2014 at 8:42 am

They can be so easy to take for granted…. we forget how lucky we are to have them in our life and in our children’s lives!


8 Nicole @MTDLBlog
Twitter: MTDLBlog
March 26, 2014 at 10:39 pm

YES, the outer circle. We have SO many in ours that have impacted our lives in such an immense way. From the Starbucks Barista who used to say hi to Jordan and I everyday before school (because I had a bit of a crack…I mean coffee habit, and I was lazy when getting us both out the door as a working mom) to all of the hospital staff who cared for me and the twins when they were born for 16 weeks, to therapists these last four years…I could go on and on. I love this term ‘Outer Circle’ – I am SO, SO grateful for ours. Saving grace.
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9 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 27, 2014 at 8:43 am

I agree- the outer circle contains all of those people whose name you may not even know… but that you see all of the time and they feel that they know you- like your barista! (And believe me, no judging here on what anyone needs to get thru or even kick off a day!)


10 Nicole @MTDLBlog
Twitter: MTDLBlog
March 26, 2014 at 10:40 pm

Side note: I hope that you get some answers soon. I can only imagine how frustrated a once- very active tween is right now dealing with that brace! No fun at all.
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11 Krystyn @ Really, Are You Serious? March 26, 2014 at 11:04 pm

That outer circle is soooo important! Like can’t live without it.

I hope you get some answers and some healing for your son. I know how frustrating being unwell/injured can be.
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12 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 27, 2014 at 8:45 am

Thanks Krystyn! The answer I am hoping for is that he is now on his way to healing and wearing the brace for a few months will take us all the way to healed. I am SO hoping that he doesn’t need knee surgery…. which could mean he would have to sit out of fall sports as well….


13 Arnebya
Twitter: whatnowandwhy
March 27, 2014 at 11:19 am

I wrote about outsiders this week too, but mine is a biiiiiiiiiit different. Ha. You look at the positiveness of those who help us through and sometimes I forget how needed those people are.
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14 miranda March 28, 2014 at 4:37 pm

I love the large utility tote


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