Mar
12
2013

Have you ever used “inappropriate language” in front of the kids? {Share Your Life}

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Yes I pride myself on the fact that for the most part I can hold my ex-buyer (read: truck driver’s) tongue when I am on “Mom duty”. My kids haven’t heard me use much colorful language. My younger ones still firmly believe that the “S” word is for “stupid”. I may have uttered a quiet “shit” when spilling an entire pitcher of lemonade on the floor for example, or perhaps allowed a “What the hell” to escape under my breath now and then. But I think for the most part, I’ve done it in such a way that the younger kids haven’t heard me (I think the older kids actually listen for it)….and I have never (yet) allowed any of those “major” curse words to fly out of my mouth…..

But one of my children, whom shall not be named, is someday going to cause me to drop the F-bomb. As in “What the f*uck are you doing?!” or “Stop acting like such a f*cking idiot!” No, those words won’t come easily… they will only flow forth after an escalting afternoon of near constant teasing and belittling of that person’s younger siblings. A mean-spirit that he never shows outside of the home (thankfully)… that is only reserved for those that live in his own household… the part of him that “come out” when he decides to torment his siblings for fun. It absolutely makes me crazy at times….

That child is going to trip me up one of these days… and the words that are going to tumble out of my mouth will make sailors blush.

But honestly- it isn’t that afternoon that I am most worried about. I know that I will be horrified, and I will apologize profusely. And of course explain to anyone in earshot about bad words and the non-creative people who rely on them to express an emotion… and how they can be and should be so much better than those words. And so on…. and so forth… yada…. yada…. yada….

But as I said… that’s not the part I am worried about.

I am worried that if I open the door, when I open the door…. can I ever put the horses back in the barn again? Or have I crossed into the never-never land of using those words on a semi-regular basis?

So for now, I must bite my tongue and try to hold back the day.

How about you? What have you allowed to “slip out” ┬áin front of your kids?

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1 Erica Filpi March 12, 2013 at 8:07 am

Oh I have. I know my teens use fowl language with their friends, but they rarely let it slip in front of me (rule number 1). When I get busted I feel like a jerk, especially when I drop a “Are you $7&:-#; serious?” and quickly remind my younger kids that for them to curse they have to meet two criteria. One they have to pay a reoccuring that benefits all in the house and two when tax season comes around they have to either take a loss on taxes or do alot of paperwork (itemizing) to avoid it. The younger ones don’t get it, but they accept it, and drop dime on the teenagers.

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2 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 13, 2013 at 2:04 pm

I like that… you pay taxes- you can curse. Boom! Enough said….

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3 Amy March 12, 2013 at 9:07 am

You are killing me here! I love what you blog and when it does slip just let them know you earned that right.

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4 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 13, 2013 at 2:03 pm

Abso-f*cking-lutely I will have earned the right! :)

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5 Melissa
Twitter: jibbertwit
March 12, 2013 at 9:58 am

I have come close. My oldest (9 at the time) was looking for her DS. I knew I’d seen it in her room, right in front of her dresser. I walked up there to help her look and saw that the dresser drawers were open and she couldn’t find the DS. I almost said, ‘are you f***ing kidding me?’ I came really close…I used my foot to close a drawer and miracle of miracles there was the DS! :) Sometimes, they just drive ya right to the edge :) I will continue to watch my tongue as long as I can, but she rides the bus, so I know she’s hearing it, but she understands and respects that I expect her to not use those words.
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6 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 13, 2013 at 2:03 pm

You’re so right…. what Mom’s not saying- my kids are already probably hearing on the bus…..!

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7 Sharyl March 12, 2013 at 11:07 am

I have done similar to you…lots under breath and you are so right they are waiting for it.

I have 4 children; 2 preteen, 1 tweens and 1 teenager…one day last month, I heard the teenager and tween–and the tween was swearing a BLUE STREAK–I was shocked–totally out of character for him. I opened the door and bright red faces for the words. Well we had quite a conversation on profanity and how unacceptable and “other kids”, etc. But would love any thoughts on dealing with this with older children or if it continues? So far have not heard boo–but I am bracing for it.

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8 Sharon
Twitter: sharonmomof6
March 13, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Sometimes when I drive my older kids and their friends to soccer practice, I’ll listen in on the conversation…. and often they will forget that I am even there! Recently I overheard my son and his friends using some curse words of the “lighter variety”…. hell, damn- and it’s like they were testing the waters- trying out the words to see how cool they were, and so on.

I decided to let the situation slide. We are kidding ourselves if we think our kids aren’t going to eventually learn how to curse. And I would rather have them test the boundaries in a quiet place as we were in- vs. swearing like a truck driver while on the playground at school. But we periodically discuss language- what’s appropriate, what’s not… especially in reference to music lyrics! So I feel comfortable that my kids know right from wrong when it comes to this kind of language. But do I think they won’t use it outside of my earshot- especially as they get older? No way…..

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9 Sharyl March 13, 2013 at 4:39 pm

I would agree with you there….the fact that he was embarrassed {red faces} is good enough for me also.

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